I recently had my second FET. The first was not succesful. I am currently on my 12 day wait. The waiting seems the hardest as you are not sure what to do. So the anxiety is killing me.Everyone says to relax but that is so hard to do.
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khadine
ModeratorHi Chara,
I know the waiting period is really the most difficult time. Hae faith and try to keep youself occupied in maybe a good book or if you're at home catch up on those Christmas movies.
Hi DianeK,
Wishing you the best of luck with your FET. Try and stay calm and think positive things. Yes I know the wait drives us crazy. But it is part of the process. Try the same advice I gave Chara, maybe it can be a good way to pass time .To thoses out there who are having a FET, share your thoughts with us. Are you feeling anxious and nervous. Let us know.
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DianeK
MemberMy emotions going into the FET were all over the place. I felt like I had all the moodiness of lupron that I've heard of, but that I didn't have when I was actually on it for the regular cycle. My FET is only because my fresh cycle didn't work (despite 5 good embryos transferred), so the pain and fear of failure is still very raw and hard to overcome. On the other hand, I try to be hopeful because for me, this may be my last chance. But this adds even more pressure. I don't have the financial resources to keep trying over and over. It will take a long time just to pay off these first two attempts. I also am doing the FET alone since we do not have paid vacation, my partner did not come with me. I cried several times when i first arrived- from anger, fear, frustration, etc, etc. Once the transfer was done, a lot of those feelings fell off. I meditated several times that day. I also walked along the beach, just enjoying the beautiful scenery and feeling lucky that I could even try this adventure at all. Many who cannot afford IVF in their home country would not be able to or even think of coming to such a beautiful place for the same high quality at a much lower cost. Many who don't need IVF never have the opportunity to come to such a beautiful, relaxing place in their lifetimes. I am afraid to do much- after the last failure where I did accupuncture and was MUCH more confident, hopeful and relaxed- this time I'm afraid to swim (some websites say it's not a good idea in the days after transfer), I'm afraid to walk too far and get overheated. But I think of the day when I'll bring my child(ren) back here, and we can all just relax and enjoy a vacation together. Of course, I thought that last time too, but hopefully this time around, I'll really mean it. Staying hopeful and positive is much harder the second time around.
Posted 1 year ago #
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